Where God guides, God provides. WOW, has he provided. This post is to share a lot of what I’ve learned this year! Heads up, it’s lengthy…
A year ago, we said goodbye to our hometown of Houston, Texas. We drove across the nation for two days to our new home in California, Maryland. We had just got married and knew this would be an adventure of a lifetime. We had no idea just how much it would change us…
This move has truly grown me so much. I know the Lord brought us here to simply grow in him. To love others on a whole different level. To live obediently to his calling…every day. To not be distracted by things we don’t want to focus our lives on and to give us a new start for our marriage…just us! Is it weird to say I’m proud of how far I’ve come since moving here? This year has been filled with so much for my husband and I. We are just so thankful the Lord called us to move to this beautiful area. I truly think the Lord disguises his plan with ambition on your heart and the hardest part is listening to it! We’ve had so much fun hosting our Houston friends/family here and meeting new ones! I’ve grown so much closer to some friends and drifted from others. We learned quick what it meant to be a devoted friend long distance!
The second we pulled into our new house, before we even had the keys, our neighbor came out to tell us she has been praying for us! (and gave us some yummy cinnamon bread from the Amish market) …TALK ABOUT A WELCOME! We knew then and there we were RIGHT where we were supposed to be. She has become one of my closest friends that we will forever stay in touch with their family, and guess what? She’s my mom’s age! God works in wonderful, beautiful and not always cliché ways! They have mentored us as a newly married couple, they have prayed with us, they have laughed with us, they have helped us with our house stuff and they have encouraged spiritual growth in us. When we went to our marriage retreat in early February (Family Life, A Weekend to Remember) the speakers told us the best thing you can do in early marriage is find a non-family related couple to selflessly mentor you with encouragement from the Bible. We glanced at each other and smiled knowing we already had that in our new home and once and again confirming our path.
This year has been a blast! It has also been so hard at times living away from family and friends we’ve known our whole life (and authentic TexMex!!). But it has challenged us to ask ourselves, what habits were just habits because they were already habits? Do we have to do things just because we’ve always done them? Do we really gain spiritual growth from this relationship, or that action, or this event, or that job? How can we glorify God MORE, TODAY? How can we be happy today? It also gave us the opportunity to not be hungover as often! We found ourselves constantly being tempted to play hard and not accomplish what we wanted on weekends. Now to be honest, I do often have FOMO (fear of missing out) but I remind myself they are just growing pains from our old life to our new life! Mostly it’s when I miss those authentic margaritas 🙂 and even then… we just go get a non-authentic one!
This year I started shortpetitesweet and have learned a ton doing so and not just about building websites! Since I love all kinds of pictures, traveling and fashion… that’s what I post about! People often say, “wow you have a fun life!” My mom told me the other day her friend said, “Stacy sure does post the most fun things. she must really have a good life!” We do have a great life because we enjoy the time we get! BUT, it is not always butterflies and rainbows. My husband works 80 hours a week. Yes. Do that math. And even though I met the most awesome, connected, boss woman for top events in DC, they are only contract hours. In our home, we choose to focus on the positive and live in that light. I choose to post positive things to encourage others to do so too! This year; I’ve called my friends crying, I’ve fought with my husband, I’ve had self-conscious thoughts in the mirror, I’ve been lonely, I’ve been attacked by the devil, I’ve been not so happy Stacy and I’ve had lengthy trials. I’ve experienced a lot! So, when you see me posting the best pictures, in the most fun locations, with the cutest outfits… just know I struggle sometimes too! If you ever find yourself looking and feeling jealous or envious of others on social media, know I look at others sometimes and feel jealousy too! Honestly, it is human nature to feel these emotions and compare ourselves to others but the key is to not let yourself stay there! My drive for shortpetitesweet is to just be real, have fun, share fashion/ideas, feel real feelings but with a positive heart in hopes to make a small impression making this world happier. Everyone has something powerful, beautiful and blessed about each day! Find yours and don’t compare it to others. Compare it to the REAL and ONLY influencer above! Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t worthy, and PLEASE don’t tell yourself that. It’s a lie we too often tell each other and too often, we believe. You are allowed to be confident in who you are right now, today! Just have a kind heart in doing so. I hear all too often people say, “well people only post the positive things in their life on social media, they don’t post their real-life problems.” Let me tell you what I think about that comment. It’s crap. This world NEEDS MORE POSITIVE THINKING. We don’t need any more focus on the hardships in our life than we have to. If you find yourself saying that… ask yourself, are YOU wanting to focus on the hardships in life? Why are you looking for other people’s hardships or desiring some sort of dark secret to make yourself feel better? I read in a book recently something like, we get an adrenaline excitement of our own when we read/see other’s horror situations. I mean that IS what rubber necking is right? An adrenaline to just see what tragic accident happened so you can tell your family/friends what type of accident you passed? I know I am guilty of that! Are you feeling this envy discussed above just hoping they aren’t as perfect as you’ve portrayed them to be? Trust me, everyone struggles! Maybe today you need to turn inward and enjoy “your positive” instead of finding other’s negative? I will tell you I have concentrated a lot this past year on this thought. I realized just how much negativity was around me and influencing! The fruit of the spirit has been my go to this year. It’s everything to guide focus in your heart then pass it on to others.
Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Since we just celebrated our one year wedding anniversary, we reflected on some of our favorite memories from this year. Mine was the move itself! We had SO much fun driving for two and a half days straight, in separate cars, over 1400 miles… to our new home. Joined by walkie talkies, coffee and books on tape, it was so much fun just knowing we were simply living the life we always wantedt! I secretly hope we move somewhere far again, so we can do it again. Our next move will happen in Spring next year and we have no clue where we’re going next! That’s how industrial construction works. It’s how Austin was raised and how I was raised. It’s not new to us. Someday, we want to plant roots around this area on the east coast but for now, we are open to wherever! Although the event planner in me tells me to freak out not knowing, we trust our path will continually be guided for us. We just have to be still and listen.
Houston, Texas 2016
California, Maryland 2017
Challenge yourself to live the life you want and don’t wait for that life to naturally happen, choose it! Then surround yourself by people and things that are in that dream!!
If you read this whole thing, thank you and I hope you enjoyed it!
Sending love, SA!