My very first BUMPDATE!
I just started my 11th week of pregnancy and we are already learning so much! I figure it will be easiest to answer a few questions I get asked a lot so here I go…
How do you feel? I feel pretty good over all! Definitely tired and deal with a lot of food aversions but have not gotten sick once! I didn’t really think I would be the one to get sick often as my mom and both sisters had mild pregnancies. The first few weeks I HAD to take a nap everyday or I was short of breath. Which was a weird feeling but I just tried to listen to my body and knew it was in over drive. Food aversions are difficult to deal with when you’re trying to get good nutrients in you to keep growing that baby. Although he requires very little at this point, we try our hardest to get a good variety of key nutrients for him. Sometimes …. it’s hard to eat more than just watermelon. Each time I feel sick, I actually get really happy. It’s a reminder that he’s still in there and growing. Doctors always say feeling sick is actually a healthy sign. How is it packing the house and traveling in first trimester? …let’s just say I am looking forward to the second trimester! 🙂
What it’s like to be on the other side on infertility? It definitely is a blessing every single moment. Sometimes, I catch myself having to remind me that this isn’t a dream and at the end of this pregnancy we will have a beautiful child to love and teach the good word to. It is the best thing I have ever been blessed with. I told Austin, ignore me if I cry. I am just so darn happy. I am positive pregnancy on most people is a complete journey filled with Joy but I cannot fully promise that I would feel this happy if it had come easy. We are very thankful for our trial and our time to dance. I do however miss my daily prayer warrior need. That’s what is so great about trials. We tackle every day clinging to the Lord. Which is exactly where I want to be. We pray all the time now but mostly in thanksgiving, guidance and over others.
Are you going to continue with your infertility groups? YES! I’m going to continue to have a servant heart toward those still in waiting and give them all the love, prayer and advice I can while also rejoicing in my miracle. It is something that I know the Lord brought me to this trial to serve others through so it is something I want to be obedient to. I never wanted to be that person who someone pregnant had to hide their joy from nor do I agree one should ever. I always wanted to celebrate with other people. My trial was not everyone else’s trial just as my now Joy is not everyone’s current Joy. As it says in the bible in Ecclesiastes, “to everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven. A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.” I want to celebrate my Joy while also being compassionate and serving those who are in waiting. As I have gone through this “quiet time” from my blog and slowed down on fashion posts on Instagram, it was because the Lord told me so. I tried to listen every day on what that calling was leading to and I am super excited to say I have a REALLY AWESOME new direction that I will be taking with my blog that he completely has turned me toward! Stay tuned….
Was it hard to give up everything in your habits? Honestly? No! We are pretty healthy people and aren’t on any medications and try to use essential oils and natural products around the house. I started cleaning up my cosmetics regimen earlier this year in hopes to get used to a non chemical life before pregnancy. I knew hormones would be changing so I wanted my face and skin to have some balance through it all. Some of my favorite products are Drunk Elephant, Acure Cosmetics, Honest Beauty and some essential oil concoctions! The only things I was nervous about giving up was coffee and tuna tar tar. However, neither really sound good, so it hasn’t been hard. I do occasionally drink a half caf cup of coffee (up to 200mg is ok) but I honestly don’t see the risk so I try to steer from any caffeine until first trimester is safely over. What about wine? Same thing as above, pregnancy gives you a nice “that doesn’t even sound good” feeling toward the things you probably shouldn’t be eating/drinking. God really knew what he was doing when he designed us to grow a human in our bodies! It’s absolutely amazing!
Have you gained weight? I dealt with a lot of bloating through IVF as my body went through a lot of medication side effects. I fluctuated quite a bit. My body has always naturally fluctuated, so I wasn’t too worried about it but it did have clothes tighter in my stomach before pregnancy even began. I am still on hormones to help reduce miscarriage so my body still fluctuates quite a bit especially in the heat. I have been wearing lots of comfy clothes and will be packing away most of my buttoned bottoms for the summer. I also already have a small bump! All the women on my side of the family showed by week 7. I didn’t exactly believe them as I was seeing he was just the size of a tiny rasberry and smaller around that time but then POP he showed up. They say that my uterus is double the size of normal by now and the size of a large fist even though he is just a small kumquat. This picture was actually a day when my bloating was down so you could see the bump more! When bloating is up, it just looks like I am wider over all if that makes sense.
Have you had your official OB appointment yet? YES! We had it this last week. As much as he reminds me he is in there, we do struggle with the challenge of fear. Every pinch or cramp or (even heavy spotting one day) makes you ask the looming question.. Am I miscarrying? It is something that we constantly pray over to just trust what his plan is for Baby Mays and to guide my habits the best I can to take good care of him. We have had three ultrasounds so far and each time it has been such a relief to see him in there. The second ultrasound, we got to hear his heartbeat and the third (at our official OB appointment) we got to see him wiggling around and even a hand! It was hard to get good pics as he was curled in the corner cozy, which makes sense for a child of mine. Talk about amazing. The best thing I have ever seen in my life. He’s measuring two days ahead of schedule and doing great on all levels! We are so thankful for smooth sails so far and pray it continues!
Any obnoxious cravings? Not too intense. Mostly just food that sounds good enough to eat sometimes I just gotta go get that to get anything in my system. Fruit, ice cream and anything ice cold has been my go to. Chips or anything salty helps me when I don’t feel the best and I can’t eat anything TOO LARGE at once or I will have to deal with an extremely hungover feeling. I think my body temp (along with summer temps) are just higher than normal so cold is most appealing. I am looking forward to spending the second trimester in the mountains!
Feel free to drop any other questions in the comments below!
If you missed the beginning to our story read it here!
Sending Love, Stacy